Trans ≠ Drag
Drag ≠ Trans
This has been a PSA. Thank you.
Literally everybody needs to understand this IMMEDIATELY
Unwanted sexual advances is what defines sexual harassment. If that person asked a coworker to make him a sexual video, then she would have the right to report him for sexual harassment. How he sent the message doesn’t change that.
Asking a stranger for sexual material when it is not in a situation where that’s an acceptable thing (they ARE a sex worker, in a relationship, are comfortable with that, etc.), it automatically is no longer respectful. Regardless of how he phrased it, it automatically is no longer polite or okay.
The real question is, why are you spending your time telling me that I’m not allowed to react to something outrageously not acceptable instead of using that energy to prevent this from being a problem in the first place. This is you saying that you think that behavior is okay and that is really what is disturbing here.
Plus the “nastiness” is required especially with invasive questions like that. Jeez, sorry that an offensive question offended someone and they may have taken it to heart. Shouldn’t you be directing this decidedly anonymous question toward the dude who actually asked it rather than her?
Those videos are not sexual at all. They are silly, and borderline romantic, but they contain no sexual content or implications at all. Someone can sexualize shoes, but that doesn’t mean if I’m wearing shoes, and someone makes that sexual, that I am myself being sexual.
Not to mention, making a video where I’m being flirtatious with the viewer is nowhere near making pornography. And consent to one thing is not consent to all things with every person. Those things are apples and oranges.
And you say that I’m making bold accusations with “little to no evidence”, but you have not said even one reason why what I’m telling you about what sexual harassment is is somehow wrong. You’ve not made one direct response to what information I’m providing you, and instead are thinking of more reasons why I am not allowed to be angry if I’m harassed. You can’t say I have little to no evidence when you have no response of why you think I’m wrong.
shit like this is why potentially awesome asmrtists quit after just a few videos. because assholes think that just because there’s a pretty girl on their computer screen paying attention to “them” (ie the camera) that they’re entitled to something sexual or that the girl MUST be trying to sexually arouse them. because that’s the entire point of girls right? why else would a pretty girl be paying attention to “them” if not to offer them sex?!
also, FLIRTING DOES NOT ENTITLE YOU TO SOMETHING SEXUAL. good fucking christ.
that and just the general awfulness of youtube comments makes me feel so fucking bad for asmrtists. like, if you really want to see some awful shit, go look at the comments of any of SoftlyRelax’s videos, particularly their FAQ video. just the most hateful, vile transphobic, nbphobic, homophobic shit you’ve ever seen. what the fuck does it matter to anyone if the person whose videos you’re watching is nonbinary? jesus christ people you don’t have to have opinions about everything. especially things you know fucking nothing about. you’d think i hope they don’t stop making videos because i LOVE them but i wouldn’t blame them if they did.
honestly it makes me a little ashamed to be into asmr sometimes. maybe i should feel bad for being relaxed by videos of cute girls paying attention to “me”. should i just be watching them just for triggers? i do that too, but i don’t get triggered often. idk.
Saying you don’t agree with what someone does, but that they probably didn’t mean it badly is you saying you’re okay with it.
You are now defending their behavior. You are telling the person who they wronged a reason why you think they should not react.
That is you saying, “Yes. This behavior is okay. You are wrong for calling it out. I would rather this behavior continue as is.”
By golly gee! I keep forgetting that Black people didn’t exist until the Fresh Prince of Bel Air came on television! Or that Black people existed in anywhere else than Africa even with slavery going on :) My apologies.
Anyway, here’s proof that Beethoven was Black:
"… Said directly, Beethoven was a black man. Specifically, his mother was a Moor, that group of Muslim Northern Africans who conquered parts of Europe—making Spain their capital—for some 800 years.
In order to make such a substantial statement, presentation of verifiable evidence is compulsory. Let’s start with what some of Beethoven’s contemporaries and biographers say about his brown complexion:
(Louis Letronne, Beethoven, 1814, pencil drawing.)
"Frederick Hertz, German anthropologist, used these terms to describe him: ‘Negroid traits, dark skin, flat, thick nose.’
Emil Ludwig, in his book ‘Beethoven,’ says: ‘His face reveals no trace of the German. He was so dark that people dubbed him Spagnol [dark-skinned].’
Fanny Giannatasio del Rio, in her book ‘An Unrequited Love: An Episode in the Life of Beethoven,’ wrote ‘His somewhat flat broad nose and rather wide mouth, his small piercing eyes and swarthy [dark] complexion, pockmarked into the bargain, gave him a strong resemblance to a mulatto.’Beethoven’s death mask: profile and full face
C. Czerny stated, ‘His beard—he had not shaved for several days—made the lower part of his already brown face still darker.’
Following are one word descriptions of Beethoven from various writers: Grillparzer, ‘dark’; Bettina von Armin, ‘brown’; Schindler, ‘red and brown’; Rellstab, ‘brownish’; Gelinek, ‘short, dark.’
In Alexander Thayer’s Life of Beethoven, vol.1, p. 134, the author states, “there is none of that obscurity which exalts one to write history as he would have it and not as it really was. The facts are too patent.” On this same page, he states that the German composer Franz Josef Haydn was referred to as a “Moor” by Prince Esterhazy, and Beethoven had “even more of the Moor in his looks.’ On p. 72, a Beethoven contemporary, Gottfried Fischer, describes him as round-nosed and of dark complexion. Also, he was called ‘der Spagnol’ (the Spaniard).
Other “patent” sources, of which there are many, include, but are not limited to, Beethoven by Maynard Solomon, p.78. He is described as having “thick, bristly coal-black hair” (in today’s parlance, we proudly call it ‘kinky’) and a ‘ruddy-complexioned face.’ In Beethoven: His Life and Times by Artes Orga, p.72, Beethoven’s pupil, Carl Czerny of the ‘School of Velocity’ fame, recalls that Beethoven’s ‘coal-black hair, cut a la Titus, stood up around his head [sounds almost like an Afro]. His black beard…darkened the lower part of his dark-complexioned face.’
Engraving by Blasius Hofel, Beethoven, 1814, color facsimile of engraving after a pencil drawing by Louis Letronne. This engraving was regarded in Beethoven’s circle as particularly lifelike. Beethoven himself thought highly of it, and gave several copies to his friends.
Beethoven, the Black Spaniard(read more here)